Kelly Orr offers a raw, gut-wrenching account of her abusive marriage - so intensely familiar in all its details that I could only skim it.
If you have any doubts as to what verbal, emotional, spiritual and sexual abuse in a "Christian" marriage looks like, then please read Kelly Orr's story. Prepare to be shocked and horrified, not only by what she endured, but by the diminishing and unbelievably insensitive, cruel responses she received from fellow believers, pastors and counselors.
I pray God blesses Kelly for her transparency, and may hearts and minds be opened to the dark reality of the kinds of abuse that exist in approximately 20 percent of what are presumed to be Christian homes.
Kelly writes, “…I suffered the loss of home, financial security, reputation, the security of my day-to-day life, and the most painful and precious loss of all – my children.
One person was responsible for all of it: my husband. Because he is an abuser. A deacon in our church, funny and polite – no one had any idea the kind of man he was behind closed doors. Even from me, he hid many things about himself that would have revealed the real depths of his evil. But much truth has been exposed. d For my children and me, the reality of who he is and what he has done to us has been devastating.
“Yet I have learned that God can heal even the deepest wounds and that no matter how much fear and desperation an abusive man can cause in the life of his target, peace and freedom can ultimately be gained. It might take time, but it can happen.
“…This book will help you understand how I was groomed by a skilled offender and why I didn’t know I was in an abusive relationship. You will learn his tactics and how his abuse continued to grow in intensity and breadth until a breaking point was finally reached.”