One reader wrote:

"Cindy, I just finished your book. By far, it is, hands down the very best resource I have EVER read on this topic. I literally want to send it to everybody. I am going to tell my counselors about it too - both books. There is only one book that has ever spoken to my heart and life more than yours, and it's the Bible..."

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"Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved" is an easy-to-read, insightful resource that takes an in-depth look at the common Christian counseling model, identifies its weaknesses where abuse is involved, and presents a new model based upon sound biblical truth and common sense.

The book provides vital insight into the foundational "God hates divorce" doctrine which fuels many counselors' primary objective of saving the marriage at all costs.  What many counselors fail to recognize is that this doctrine and others (which I address) empower abusers and keep their victims in bondage, fearful of being abandoned by God.

It is hard to imagine that many victims have been shamed, shunned and even excommunicated from their churches for removing themselves and their children from toxic, ungodly homes.  Something is terribly wrong with this picture, and it's time to address the manner in which Christian counselors and believers as a whole respond to abuse and its victims within the body of Christ.

This book is ideal for victims seeking direction as to what they may want to look for in a counselor and the counseling process.  It is also a valuable resource for pastors, church leaders and counselors and would similarly be suitable for faculty and students at Christian colleges and seminaries.

We must be willing to identify the wolves among us and rise in defense of those who are being victimized in their own homes.  In acknowledging the sanctity of marriage, the truth is that a marriage's substance is of far more importance than its status.

"Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved" is available as a paperback for $14.95 and as a Kindle book for $4.99.

If you have any doubts as to what verbal, emotional, spiritual and sexual abuse in a "Christian" marriage looks like, then please read Kelly Orr's story.  Prepare to be shocked and horrified, not only by what she endured, but by the diminishing and unbelievably insensitive, cruel responses she received from fellow believers, pastors and counselors.

I pray God blesses Kelly for her transparency, and may hearts and minds be opened to the dark reality of the kinds of abuse that exist in approximately 20 percent of what are presumed to be Christian homes.

Author Rebecca Davis clears away the cobwebs of doubt, confusion and shame that arises from misrepresenting God's heart toward the hurting. Rebecca replaces debilitating untruths with powerful, life-affirming, God-honoring truth.