In my conversations with abuse victims, as I listen to them while they peel away layer after layer of marital heartbreak, there may come a point when I find myself engaged in an internal wrestling match, when I am thoroughly convinced that I need to use the dreaded “D” word, but I wonder: Is it … Continue reading The Dreaded “D” Word
“Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed.” Proverbs 15:22 We know there is wisdom in the counsel of many. Even in the midst of overwhelming heartache and confusion, we may have some vague idea of what we want or need to do, but out of a sincere desire to do the right … Continue reading Wisdom in the Counsel of Many?
Early in our marriage, my husband and I worked cooperatively on budgeting and saving. We came to an understanding that neither of us would make any major purchases until we discussed them and agreed upon them. But as the years passed, something shifted – and not in a good way. When balancing our checkbook virtually … Continue reading Identifying Financial Abusers and Their Tactics
“You have heard it was said,‘love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:43-44 This is a powerful verse that is often used to compel victims of abuse to remain with their abusers. The pretense is that no matter how we are … Continue reading Love Your Enemies?
“Transgression speaks to the ungodly within his heart; there is no fear of God before his eyes. For it flatters him in his own eyes concerning the discovery of his iniquity and the hatred of it. The words of his mouth are wickedness and deceit; He has ceased to be wise and to do good. … Continue reading Reject the Counsel of the Doubters, for the Wicked Still Live Among Us