February 4, 2015 Contact: Cindy Burrell FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Hurtbylove.com
Author and abuse survivor Cindy Burrell is pleased to announce the release of the second editions of “Why Is He So Mean to Me?” and “God Is My Witness: Making a Case for Biblical Divorce.”
Burrell, the co-owner of Hurtbylove.com stated, “We have been successful in reaching thousands upon thousands of women in 42 countries since we hit the internet with the release of “Why Is He So Mean to Me?” five years ago. We are eager to help thousands more to understand abuse – and find healing.
“Virtually every person I meet knows someone in an abusive relationship, and oftentimes the abuse is not physical. My book very clearly reveals the abuser’s mindset and tactics as well as the role the victim plays in the dysfunction, then equips her with the tools and information she needs to reclaim her value and her life. Having survived 20 years in an abusive marriage, I know what I’m talking about,” Cindy added.
In addition to an in-depth look at the abuse dynamic, the second edition of “Why?” empowers a victim to trust her instincts, helps her to identify the abuser’s mental games, and also includes an important acknowledgement regarding couples counseling, explaining why it almost always fails where abuse is involved.
God Is My Witness,” thoroughly explores God’s design for marriage and the biblical substantiation for divorce. The book offers a well-researched, alternative view that analyzes many of the Scriptures that lead many to conclude that God hates divorce or that getting a divorce for any cause other than adultery is unjustifiable. “Scripture upholds the sanctity of marriage,” Cindy noted, “not merely the office of it.”
In addition to insightful articles and other resources available at Hurtbylove.com, the books are available both as an e-book for only $8.95 or as a paperback for $14.98. Readers may also find the second editions through Amazon and for Kindle.
Cindy specifically encourages potential abuse victims to visit Hurtbylove.com, where they may find the kind of information and emotional support they need, stating “The truth really does have the power to set us free.”
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If my husband does not want to be this way – is there any help for men out there?
Hello, Val. Your question is a loaded one. My question is: Why is it so difficult to be kind to the people he professes to love?
Abuse is often generational, for sure, but when the Spirit is given full reign in a person’s life, I believe that those tendencies are replaced with the love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control that are consistent that surrender and new life.
If your husband wants help, he should be the one to go find it and commit himself to change. Although you want to help him, that’s not your responsibility. Furthermore, if he is intent on making sure you (and any children) are not harmed during his season of growth and change, I similarly believe he should take it upon himself to try to find other living arrangements. That may seem unrealistic or harsh, but if he is serious about making sure you are safe while working through his issues, these are not unrealistic or burdensome actions to take. If that is not logistically possible, then again, he should seriously seek to address his needs and make it a priority to separate himself from any situation that he can’t handle in a safe, respectful manner.
I would encourage you to turn this over to him and see whether he is willing to do whatever it takes, or whether he tries to make you even partially responsible for HIS healing. Offer no reminders, no suggestions… If he makes excuses for not taking action or rationalizes his failures, then (sadly) his words are almost certainly just words. And if you see that as the case over time, then nothing has really changed.
Feel free to write me privately at cindyburrell@hurtbylove.com. I also offer personal coaching if you’re ever interested.
Hang in there.
Cindy