Dear Enabler-Victim Friends:
Our actions reflect our belief system. As a recovering enabler, I have discovered that we enablers adhere to many common beliefs and thought processes as we attempt to cope in an abusive relationship. Maybe it’s time to compare some of our thoughts to reality.
See for yourself whether I know what you’re thinking, with the help of my own version of ESP: “Enabler-isms Stated Plainly”
Who’s Convincing Whom?
The abuser is trying to convince you that you are not worth loving, and you are trying to convince him that you are.